Wait, am I still talking about dating? See, it’s confusing even at this point!
The irony is that I am very good at REAL interviews, but I seem to suck badly at dating. Not only do I not want to date, I feel that the whole process is somewhat a waste of time. Perhaps it’s the men that I have come into contact with that just aren’t what I am really looking for or maybe I’ve out grown the act of what we call dating. When I hear someone even use that word, I get an overwhelming feeling to walk away or run…fast. What is the real essence of the dating ritual? As a woman, I think of it as a way of finding out if we are compatible enough to have a meal together and me not wanting to choke you midway through. Then if that works out we should move on to other activities, like movies, vacations, and if this thing is worth our time for the next 10-15 years. I obviously do not like to waste time, I do not want to txt and chat with a man for 6 months and find out that we are nowhere near having the same beliefs, and goals in the relationship and you’ve been dating other women just to feed your ego. No thanks! I’m not saying that “dating” around is a sin, because I’ve done it myself, I’m just not there anymore. You know that saying, ”been there, don’t that”? Those days are over, and I am much more content eating alone than spending time listening to someone babble about their next adventure and stock portfolio. At this point in our human evolution I believe it suitable for us to come up with a different term, dating has been played out. The fact that dating sites are now easily construed as online hookup, perhaps we should cut the cord on looking at sustainable relationships as dating, because honestly another word comes to mind…a lot!
I have no negativity towards the act of meeting people and hoping for the best, I guess for now I am just making my way through the experience or NOT experiencing creating this act with the opposite sex. I value the sanity that I have and for what it’s worth, if I meet another married (unadmitted), unavailable, emotionally crippled man who “thinks” he’s interested in pursuing something with me….that shred of mental stability will be gone, immediately.
**no names were used to protect the not so innocent**